Me: But how do I know if I’m queer?
*watches Birds of Prey and is attracted to the entire adult cast*
Me: …oh yeah….
Anonymous asked:
fuck-customers answered:
Talking about abuse and trauma isn’t just “whining”. Talking about it, uncovering it and outing abusers should contribute to stopping and ending abuse. Every time you say out loud what abusers have done to you, not only there will be people who will relate and gain courage to out their abusers too, but more and more people will become aware of how common and destructive abuse is, and I believe those who have been affected the most will join and fight it. I want everyone to talk about abuse, whenever they can be heard, so everyone knows just what it is, how many people are affected, how destructive the consequences are, how cruel and monstrous the abusers are, and what to do to stop them. Talking about abuse, in long term, will end abuse.
The man who was my father emotionally abused me every day of my life until I moved out of his house. He physically abused me frequently, shaking me, poking me, he even choked me. My mother enabled and protected him, and would make *me* apologize to *him* when he had hurt me.
I kept it secret until I was 47, because I was embarrassed and ashamed. I *fully* believed that I deserved it, and I spent my ENTIRE life trying to solve the puzzle that would unlock the kind, compassionate, loving father I wanted.
But I was also protecting him, without realizing it, because that is what I learned from my mother. I protected the man who bullied, humiliated, and hurt me, until I was 47 years-old and confronted them both. He didn’t care, she gaslighted me. I don’t know what else I should have expected.
I’m both sad and grateful that they showed me who they were, then, because it confirmed my fear and suspicion that they were *exactly* who I knew they were, even though I’d spent my life trying not to accept that painful reality.
I speak up about being an abuse survivor now because there is SO MUCH shame and fear just boiling around in people like me, because we were trained (I do not believed ‘brainwashed’ is too far) by our abusers and their enablers to feel that way.
I.
Am.
Not.
Ashamed.
I am pissed off, and I will stand up not just for myself, but for every child or adult child who has endured *any* kind of abuse.
I see you. I love you. I’m so sorry that I know what you’re going through, and I hope hearing my story of survival and recovery can inspire anyone reading this, who is still as scared and ashamed as I was, just 18 months ago.
Parasite (2019) dir. Bong Joon Ho
US (2019) dir. Jordan Peele
Knives Out (2019) dir. Rian Johnson
Ready Or Not (2019) dir. Matt Bettinelli-Olpin & Tyler Gillett
Hustlers (2019) dir. Lorene Scafaria
eat the rich
ah yes they call me “No Queue” Jones because I post everything I reblog at once with no breaks in between and then vanish into the night for extended periods of inactivity
So yeah, still around, wondering why I’m keeping this Tumblr active but I guess why not? It’s been a hot minute since I last updated. Since working at High End Grocery Store, I’ve been promoted to supervisor, so a lot of my anxious posts about me getting fired for my myriad mistakes was just my anxiety. I mean it’s not a perfect job, but it pays the bills and as I’m still struggling to get out of debt, it’s something I need to stick around for the forseeable future.
Headed to Gallifrey One again in about a week and a half, with a stopover at Disneyland first to see Galaxy’s Edge and hopefully ride the newest Star Wars ride. Unfortunately before then I’m apparently on a 7 day schedule, which…is…fine? I guess? My requested days off were mostly granted except for one at the beginning. I started my new workweek today and I’m scheduled until next thursday. I might have to figure out a way to get my vacation days back. Ugh.
Anyway, I am around. For now.
@deadcatwithaflamethrower I feel like you’ll enjoy this
Pardon me, I’ll be over here being very, very Pansexual.
People improve when they get external love and support.
THE GOOD PLACE (2016 — 2020)
Owen Wilson has joined the upcoming “Loki” series at Disney Plus, Variety has confirmed with sources. The exact details of Wilson’s role are being kept under wraps. Tom Hiddleston will star in the series, reprising his role from the Marvel Cinematic Universe.
…wow!
Hi there! Your friendly neighborhood Tumblr web developer here. You may have recently noticed that we’re making some changes around the site. Some of you might have even gotten the chance to play around with a beta version of our site on desktop. We may be biased, but we think it’s pretty neat!
However, we know that a lot of you don’t just use Tumblr—especially on your non-mobile devices. You use Tumblr and something. Tumblr and XKit, Tumblr and Tumblr Savior, Tumblr and all kinds of things, all of them made and maintained by passionate Tumblr users. We don’t want that to go away when we roll out the new changes to everybody.
We’ll be rolling out these changes within the next couple of months, aiming to be fully out by the end of March. So, consider this an olive branch–we don’t want this to surprise anyone, and we want to help everyone be ready.
Some of you are already digging into the beta site, poking at its gears, and trying to make it play along nicely with browser extensions. We want to make that at least somewhat easier. We’ve already built in one hook that lets you access consistent and meaningful CSS class names. Hopefully, that’s enough to enable some DOM manipulation and restyling. You can take a look at some documentation for it here.
It might not be enough for everything, though. If it’s not, we want to know. You can let us know via this very blog if you wish. Or drop by our docs on Github and leave an issue. We can’t make any guarantees, except that we’re listening.
All the best,
The Core Web Team @ Tumblr
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